I wish I could learn to learn to live in the moment. Every self-help, seemingly joyous author purports that this is the answer to pessimism and depression. Here are the facts as I know them. All the good moments come to an end. Most moments are average at best. For some people, it is nearly impossible not to think forward, back, and sometimes both at the same time. For us, trying to live in the moment is stressful because it is so difficult and we are so unsuccessful.